I Want a Baby!

One day walking to the bus from work I passed a playground. It was one of those days where the temperature was fashion perfect. It was warm but cool enough to wear a jacket and maybe a scarf. I loved days like this. As I was walking, I passed the playground where I saw children playing. Parents stood with their strollers as they watched their children play with one another and all I could do was smile. My heart skipped a beat as I looked at all the different scenarios.

There were dads, moms, couples, and even grandparents, all happy to watch their children play. I longed to have that one day. I continued walking and began thinking about all the great men I had met in my life and now that I was on good terms with all of them I could think about the “What ifs.”

It was written in the stars that I was to be a family man. People like me do not simply have friends I have people that I am so close to you cannot tell the blood relatives from the non-blood ones. I walked and thought about all the dreams that I have had where I saw me teaching a child something or cooking dinner for my family or going to a school to see if it would be a good pick for my child. Every aspect about child rearing seemed to be something I wanted, everything except discipline; I mean who longs to punish their child? I however recognize it as a necessary part of having a family and so threw it into the fantasy to make it seem a bit more realistic.

I found myself smiling this Sunday morning as there was only one person I could see fitting into this fantasy and so I took my seat and pushing my thoughts to the back of my mind bean reading my book on Judaism. 

So You Are New To Dating?

It has been my experience that “Baby Gays” love me. What is the definition of a baby gay one may ask, well a baby gay is any gay between the ages of 21 and 25 or a gay man who has recently come out of the closet. You may ask why this is so. Well men have a maturation curve, the gay life offers a lot of different options and it takes a few years of exploration to figure out exactly what all of the different options are, what one wants to explore and finally they type of gay man that one wants to be. The learning never stops but there comes a point when you look in the mirror and you know exactly where you are heading in regards to the type of individual you intend to be.

Being a fan among Baby Gays, has given me an edge on dating advice I have a never ending pool to experiment with, add the fact that I have done my fair share of dating, that my friends all come to me for dating advice and one can clearly see why I have a dating blog.

Recently I have found myself giving my mother dating advice. It is odd considering that the only reason I can give her good advice is because I am a man who dates men, something she and I have decided not to discuss, ever. My mother has recently found herself single. Divorced from my stepfather and when the guy she was recently dating began to act like an asshole she walked away from that too. I find it really hard dishing out tough love to my mother. She is a bit more sensitive than my other friends and she turns to G-d for everything. I can give great advice to my mother but it is not until she prays on it or the shit hits the fan that she takes it and I am typically left without the credit, not that I mind.  

The other night she called to talk about her boyfriend and I was not in the mood to hear the same thing for the 100edth time. Typically I try not to tell my friends to break up but rather talk to the person, my mother’s response is always, “I will just pray about it and let G-d deal with it.” I typically want to respond, “Then why the hell are we talking about it? Why are you all hurt, either get over it or deal with it?”

That night I wanted to tell here to stop being hurt and look at the type of men she keeps dating. Twice now she has dated men who never been in a serious relationship and are in their late 40s. Last I checked that is a huge red flag.

So I have some general advice for older women who are looking to settle down with mister Right.

1. Date men who you have a common dating history with.
2. The moment his actions do not line up with his words, Talk or walk.
3. Be sure to discuss intentions, if he cannot be honest with where he expects things to go, then you will most likely end up wasting your time. 
4. Be sure that you have more than one thing in common. You need to be able to have a conversation that is more than just your day, your past, and what you plan on having for diner.
5. Take note of your dating pattern and adjust, if things keep failing, it’s not them it’s you.
6. Have realistic intentions, do not think you are going to start a family and your biological clock has stopped.
7. If your religion is important to you than date a man who ACTS like it is important to him as well.
8. Be mindful of rumors, gossip always stems from truth.
9. Shop around do not seem too desperate, be sure you have explored your options. 
10. Do not allow things to progress to fast.
11. Be honest to yourself and others.
12. Like for like, do not expect a man without kids to relate or understand your problems related to you being a parent.
13.  Men like working for it, so play hard to get and keep an obvious amount of distance, In the beginning. 

These dating rules work for anyone who is rejoining the world of dating. Whether you are a Baby Gay or an older woman stick to the rules and don’t go diving in the deep end. 

"And that's what makes a man, Not hard to understand!"

"DNA"

Does he tell you he loves you when you least expect it?
Does he flutter your heart when he kisses your neck?
No scientist or biology
It's obvious when he's holding me
It's only natural that I'm so affected

And my heart won't beat again
If I can't feel him in my veins
No need to question, I already know

It's in his DNA
D-D-D-DNA
It's in his DNA
And he just takes my breath away
B-b-b-breath away
I feel it every day,
And that's what makes a man
Not hard to understand
Perfect in every way
I see it in his face
Nothing more to say
It's in his D-D-D-DNA

It's the blue in his eyes that helps me see the future
Fingerprints that leave me covered for days, yeah, hey, yeah
Now I don't have any first degree
But I know, what he does to me
No need to work it out, it's so familiar, ooh, ooh, ooh

And my heart won't beat again
If I can't feel him in my veins
No need to question, I already know

It's in his DNA
D-D-D-DNA
It's in his DNA
And he just takes my breath away
B-b-b-breath away
I feel it every day,
And that's what makes a man
Not hard to understand
Perfect in every way
I see it in his face
Nothing more to say
It's in his D-D-D-DNA

It's all about his kiss
Contaminates my lips
Our energy connects
It's simple genetics
I'm the X to his Y
It's the colour of his eyes
He can do no wrong
No, he don't need to try
Made from the best
He passes all the tests
Got my heart beating fast
It's cardiac arrest
He's from a different strain
That science can't explain
I guess that's how he's made
In his d-d-d-DNA

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

Ahhh, ahhh, ahhh, oohh

It's in his DNA
D-D-D-DNA
It's in his DNA
And he just takes my breath away
B-b-b-breath away
I feel it every day,
And that's what makes a man (what makes a man)
Not hard to understand (to understand)
Perfect in every way (in every way)
I see it in his face (in his face)
Nothing more to say (nothing more to say)
It's in his D-D-D-DNA