Several weeks after returning to Philly I was harassed on Facebook
because of something on Grindr. Apparently my screen name of Gallifreyan with
the headline of, “good little bottom, no hookups,” is controversial.
I have two separate Facebook accounts one for my blog and on
for the closest of friends and family. My mother is a friend on my family
account and I do not post things that are pertaining to who I am dating or what
she refers to as my gay life. My friends are all well aware of this. But this
one particular friend decided to take a screen shot of my Grindr account and
post it on my wall, my other friend who knows that hardships I faced coming out,
because he was my boyfriend at the time, decided to comment and make merry of
it. When I called the two of them out on it instead of realizing the trouble
they could have caused me and apologize I was harassed for being upset and not
having an account that they approved of.
Back and forth we went until he finally admitted to the fact
that he did not like how I acted when I met his mother while I was in Vegas.
Several weeks later several conversations and jokes he is
bringing up something that could have been dealt with while I was still in Vegas.
I decided to hold my ground if this was the disrespect I was going to get from
him, then I was not budging no matter how it might destroy my friendship.
He refused to see things my way failed to acknowledge the
fact that he said thing to upset me while I was in Vegas, that he failed to
even attempt to include me in his circle during the super bowl and that even
after I confronted him on it all he made light of it all and dismissed it.
When he decided to become judgmental of the progress I had
made with depression I told him he had no right especially not knowing the kind
of day I had. I finally dismissed him and it was weeks before we spoke again.
