J.R. Big.

So I mentioned before about a guy I call JR who I thought was going to be an exception to the “J” rule. As it would turn out he was not. There a several types of men in the world, the ones who do anything to have you, the ones who will play games to get you, the ones who don't want you and the ones who only want you when they cant have you.Damien, Raymone and JR are the three men in my lfe that have proven to only want me when they cant have me.

I met JR while working at Starbucks and he was quite taken with me and once I was free he seemed to lose interest for various reasons. It went from hot nights alone to crazy nights with friends to me bringing him coffee to his job with nothing in return.

I met the majority of JR's friends and they all liked me, not just liked me but liked me for JR and all my friends that knew JR wanted us to get together. So I opened myself up. I even went to him one night totally stressed out and vented and he listened. There are few people in this world that I allow to see my vulnerable side, especially men. He saw it and acted like it was no big deal.

We finally went on a date and constantly he was telling my new BFF how much he liked me and did not want to loose me. She would advise him on how to woe me and sweep me off my feet and he would never do what it took. After awhile I got tired of always having to share him with everyone. He would ask me out and it would turn out to be me meeting his friends, buying myself a beer and then either going back to his place to sleep in a bed full of dog hair or taking a cab back to my place.

I began getting peeved, how could you say you want me and not even take me on a real date? This went on and on and I made myself less available. He became confused, one moment he wanted just friends, the next for us to be dating. He would call me babe as if to indicate we were more than friends.

Eventually I began dating other people in hopes that he would get his act together and while his mouth said it bothered him, his actions said he didn't care.

The last straw came when I told him I wanted to hang out. He sent me a text asking what I was doing and when I told I was just watching TV he chose not to respond. I then asked him to proof my resume and a week latter I was still hearing, “I will do it tomorrow.”

looks like this JR guy was one of those “Big Talkers.” he could not even be a real friend to me yet alone anything else and the worst part about it is we are friends on foursquare, so I get all his updates when he checks into his favorite bars. Not that I am stalking him but it really sucks to see he has time to bar hop but none for the guy he claims he wanted to put on a pedestal.