It is difficult to find an unattached good man, no matter
where you look the ones who are hot and decent are already attached to someone
else. Then you have the guys who are so attached that no matter what, they will
never come unattached. These are the married men who cheat because, well; they
can get away with it. Their lovers or wives or husbands turn a blind eye to what
goes on because simply put they will always go home.
This creates a problem in the dating world especially if you
are a gay man. You find these guys who say they only want sex but they have no
clue as to how to make it just about sex. They introduce some kind of emotion
and then make excuses as to why they cannot leave their partner.
Things can get harry with married men, so I avoid it as best
as I can, but what does one do when you get involved with a married man for the
sake of sex only but they want more?
Recently I allowed myself to enter into that type of
relationship. I met a guy who was handsome, great body, well off, and great in
bed, the catch, (like with all great things) is he is married to another man.
Due to several recent operations his partner could no longer be the bottom in
the relationship and being uncompromising said man decided to stay in the
relationship and simple get ass from someone else. This was fine by me, I only
wanted his dick, no dates, no gifts, nothing but the occasional booty call.
It was not long before I started being asked questions like,
“If I was single would you date me?”
Major red flag, I am not a home wrecker. He then started telling me
things such as, “You make me feel so good,” and “I want you to know it is not
just about sex with you.”
I allowed the affair to continue because as we all know, “He
never leaves his wife” or husband in my case. Then the other day I accepted the
fact that it would be a while before I would see him as he and his husband were
going on vacation together. He then told me he wanted to see me to say hi and
see how I was doing, just talk no sex. So I rushed home only to get a text
saying, “Haven’t forgotten you, handling a work issue.” Five hours later when I text him back
playfully that it must be a major work issue I got reprimanded for my sarcastic
tone. I sent him a text the next day and no response.
I learned a lesson in all of this. I always wondered how
people find themselves in a “situation” with married men and the truth of the
matter is they never let you think it is just sex. They do their best to hook
you in by saying the things that you don’t get to hear all the time. You hear
how great you make them feel, they tell you are beautiful, intelligent, and that you should be attached.
Then before you know it you become addicted and you begin to wonder, “if I make
you feel this good, why not be with me?”
I failed to get totally hooked, I was enjoying being single,
the idea of being a side piece gave me what I truly wanted, sex with no strings
attached, and I kept solace in the fact that they never leave what they got at
home.
So I close with a tip, if you ever find yourself with a married
person, remember no matter what they say it is just sex and if you catch feelings
then you need to run.
